Be the ‘Ungrateful Immigrant’

I noticed a trend in discussions and attitudes within communities of people who move to Finland - if you speak up or criticize the society objectively or not, you are ungrateful. By this definition, I am an ungrateful immigrant and you should be too. This narrative is also promoted by the society which tends to indirectly or directly pick and choose who are the more welcome ‘immigrants’ based on how ‘grateful’ they are or not. For want of a better word, I will use the term immigrant as is used in the mainstream discourses in Finland so we have a common ground.


Gratitude is ONLY a first step

Gratitude acknowledges the opportunities and freedoms often associated with moving to a new country. For many, immigration may provide access to better education, safety, healthcare, and economic stability—opportunities that might not have been available in their country of origin. This is a phase that must not end as such. Gratitude means contributing and enriching the new society


Expressing gratitude is essential because it fosters a sense of belonging and respect for the host country. It demonstrates appreciation for the infrastructure, policies, and people who have created an environment conducive to your success. However, gratitude must not stop at acknowledgment; it should inspire action. 


Now let’s unpack ‘gratitude’ in this context

A distinction must be made between gratitude and unending gratitude. The former is voluntary, unconditional, free, and open, the latter is  the expectation and demand to be infinitely grateful even at the cost of one’s humanity and dignity. Although immigrants can often and openly express their unconditional appreciation, the not-so-subtle expectation to express gratitude, no matter the circumstance, creates and perpetuates an abrasive and a discriminating culture.


Although the recognition for unending gratitude is easy to spot on a macro/public level, expressions for infinite gratitude can be easily missed and sometimes underrated in private/micro spaces. 

For instance, in the workplace, subtle reminders to employees of immigrant background to be unendingly grateful are often hidden under the guise of advice, support, help or even as mentoring.

 

Immigrating to a new country is one of the most transformative experiences an individual can undertake. It is a journey filled with excitement, challenges, and opportunities for growth. As immigrants, it is natural to feel gratitude for the chance to start anew in a land of ‘promise’. But, expecting gratitude alone is not enough—it must be accompanied by an active effort to contribute to society. Gratitude without contribution risks being passive. When immigrants actively contribute to their new society, they close the loop of reciprocity and strengthen their sense of community. 


Why contributing is crucial

1. Building Bridges of Understanding 

Contributing allows immigrants to integrate more deeply into their new communities. Volunteering, participating in local events, or supporting community initiatives fosters mutual understanding and helps break down cultural barriers.  


2. Creating a Positive Legacy

Immigrants have historically been innovators, entrepreneurs, and community builders. By contributing skills, knowledge, and perspectives, you add value to the economy and culture of your new home. Your success becomes a testament to the opportunities the country offers.  


3. Strengthening Personal Growth

Contribution is a two-way street. In giving back, you grow as an individual—learning new skills, making meaningful connections, and becoming a more integrated member of society. This personal growth amplifies your ability to thrive and inspires others in your community to do the same.  


4.Fostering Future Opportunities

 The contributions of today’s immigrants pave the way for future generations. By engaging in society and addressing local challenges, immigrants can create a more inclusive and prosperous environment for their children and other newcomers.  



Conclusion

Immigrants have a unique opportunity to be both beneficiaries and benefactors of their new society. Gratitude acknowledges the opportunities, while contribution turns that gratitude into tangible benefits for others. Together, these two pillars strengthen the foundation of not just individuals, but the society that has welcomed them.  When immigrants contribute to their new society, they spark a ripple effect. Their efforts inspire others—both immigrants and natives—to collaborate and build stronger, more cohesive communities. This sense of shared purpose can bridge divides and create a society where everyone has the chance to thrive.  


As an immigrant, be ‘ungrateful’—be impactful. Your journey is not only about what you’ve gained, but also about what you can give back. Being the ‘ungrateful immigrant’ as defined here is not a never ending streak of complaints and criticisms but identifying solutions and how to contribute to them.

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